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Juggling

    I felt the urge to write this post because life has a tendency of complicating and when it does, we tend to feel alone in the process. This is a reminder to others like me that.. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It puts me at ease to hear/read others’ stories and strategies to deal with their responsibilities without leaving aside the important aspects of life. As I have disclosed on some of my previous posts, I am a young single mother and I strive every day to be the best version of myself, for 1. myself and 2. my son. However; reality is not always as romantic as it sounds and some days I struggle to keep that goal in mind.

    Finding balance between education and motherhood can be tricky, especially if the person is a highly dedicated student (here you have an overachiever) and a highly dedicated mother. To make things more interesting and fun, let’s add work and paying the bills to the equation, plus being an international student coming from a country with a severe socioeconomic crisis. These past few months I have had to deal with constant blows in the face and, even though I love life, I am exhausted ! I follow the principle that life moves on and you must move along with it, thus I focus on the present and keep on going, trying to juggle every ball thrown at me to keep the flow and excitement of the act.

   After leaving an amazing talk from two ex-convicts about empowerment and giving meaning to life, I am incredibly inspired and would like to share with you some things that I have learned along the way and tips to keep life interesting when the clock is winning the race and you have not had a chance to take a shower !!! Parents out there, I know that you are guilty…

-Always be grateful.
I know that this sounds cliche, but I have found so much peace when I have allowed myself to take a couple of seconds to breathe and thank the Universe for the life that I have.

-Give yourself a chance to be outdoors.
There is nothing more healing for me than getting a breath of fresh air, actual fresh air! I am at peace whenever I am outdoors and even though I don’t always have the opportunity to fully engage with it, I make sure to at least go to my backyard and breath because.. The birds are talking and we must listen.

-Exercise
There was once a stage of my life where the only utility that I gave to exercising was to get in shape and have a smokin’ body. I never contemplated the act as an actual form of therapy and pure enjoyment and now that I have reached that point, I am never letting go… Which is utter bs because we all know that it takes a village to maintain that form of discipline; however, whenever I am very stressed out or feeling blue, I force myself to run for at least 30 minutes. I try to take as much advantage as I can of the resources that I have to break a sweat and release some endorphins. Trust me, as long as you don’t dehydrate in the process, you’ll feel better.

-Make time for the ones you love.
This is my favorite part and the saddest thing is that it is the one that I do the least. I am not proud of this aspect and I am trying to gain as much awareness of it as possible. It is so easy to get caught up in the routine and external responsibilities that without realizing it, you neglect what is most valuable to you. A couple of weeks ago I started noticing a change in my son’s behavior. He later complained to me that I was always working or studying and didn’t spend as much time with him as I used to. After that occasion, I make sure to take a weekly walk together and to be more present for him.

-Hug your loved ones…Or a tree.
There is nothing more soothing than a warm embrace… Trees are great too !

-Ditch the phone.
After having my son I decided to get rid of social media because I was more focused on it than actually taking care of him ! I decided to detox myself from all of it and have not been more pleased, I now know how to balance between life and social media and control the urge of opening Instagram, etc . Give it a try, you will have withdrawals, but it is worth it !

Writing this has been therapeutical and I would love, love, love to hear your stories and recommendations ! How do you juggle ?

Gaia
Gaia Co-writer theDIHEDRAL

45 Replies to “Juggling”

  1. writergherlone says: Reply

    I’d say you’re doing a pretty good job of being a single parent. You have some wonderful tools and coping skills!

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  2. Kim says: Reply

    Being grateful is very therapeutic. When things are not going the way i want, I take a moment to appreciate the things that are right.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      I love this “…I take a moment to appreciate the things that are right.” We definitely have many things going right in our lives but we ignore them when we are overwhelmed by the not so great ones.

      Thank you for this !!!

      Gaia.

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      1. Kim says:

        Very true. It’s easy to take the good stuff for granted, especially when we’re bust looking for something else.
        You’re welcome 🙂

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Thank you so much, I have a big smile on my face now ! To be able to inspire someone is more than an honor to me because I am the one who is constantly being inspired by others !

      Take care !

      Gaia

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  7. nihillwalker says: Reply

    Love that you love the great outdoors! In all its forms it’s a remarkable healer and a great life tool to pass on and share with your son. Great job!

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Thank you !!! As soon as I found out that I was pregnant, I knew right away that my love for Mother Nature was something that I wanted to share and pass on to him ! I am happy to say that he hugs trees and he loves it !

      Gaia.

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  8. karengoesoutside says: Reply

    For the past several days I have been thinking about this very topic. In fact, my next post is about finding the balance between responsibilities and following your dreams. I am the other side of 50 and I can tell you it never goes away, you’re continually rebalancing. Sometimes it feels like there just isn’t enough time for it all, but it sounds like your head and heart are both in the right places and you are making good choices. Teaching your child love for nature is one of the best gifts you will give him.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Thank you Karen, for taking the time to read us and for sharing part of your story with us. Let’s keep rebalancing and evolving.

      Infinite Love,

      Gaia

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  10. curioussteph says: Reply

    Sounds like you are doing a fine job of juggling. I would also suggest that periodically you consider whether all the balls, rocks, etc you’ve been keeping in the air are worthy of the effort. From what you have said in your post about giving up social media, I suspect you already do this. I’ve found it useful to reassess every so often if I am indeed expending my time and energy in the way that seems best to me now–not what was “right” a while back or if someone else’s priorities have snuck in there.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      I love how you mention the fact of reassessing priorities. Something that was “right” or “wrong” a while back does not mean that it is still the same way in the present. I go through this process every so often !

      Much Love,

      Gaia

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  11. Pangan7 says: Reply

    I read the post from the first word to the last one. I appreciate you. you are a really great mother. but as a boy! whom is the son of great mother, I am reminding you this fact that before being a mother, at first you are “a person”. mothers generally forget themselves to be the best for their children. but kids can grow up even better if they have less control and more independent. any way, I really enjoy your blog.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot to me, especially because they come from a son’s perspective. I will follow your advice.

      Take care,

      Gaia

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  13. Remote_Me_Please says: Reply

    Trying to be more present in family life is something I am greatly struggling with. This was a great post, thanks for sharing.

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  15. WalkFrederick says: Reply

    I love the idea of going on a walk with your son in order to get quality time in. I should be more intentional about that.

    I’m not sure how I juggle it all (or if I do!). Being the mom of 5 kids certainly can be challenging. I always try to put God first. That helps me get back on track and feel less overwhelmed.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Oh my ! You deserve the greatest award. I would love to read your story and know how you juggle. I am sure I’ll learn a thing or two from you !

      Take care,

      Gaia

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  16. kagould17 says: Reply

    You have figured out what is important and that is more than many people can achieve. Congratulations on your juggling skills. There is very little more important than spending time with the ones you love.

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  19. Ginny says: Reply

    Thabk you for sharing your thoughts, wisdom and enthusiasm for life with such honesty. Your son has so much to look up to in you.
    I, too, am a new-mum shunning social media and attempting to juggle. Your blog has really encouraged me today.
    I also love your writing style and look forward to following your blog with interest.

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    1. thedihedral says: Reply

      Ginny, this message has made my day. You have put the biggest smile on my face ! Congratulations new-mum and welcome to this beautiful, crazy, and always fun ride ! I tend to write a lot about my personal experiences and the joy (and often times struggle) of motherhood. Welcome to this eclectic community of theDIHEDRAL. If you would ever want to share your stories, we are here to open that door for you !

      Infinite Love,

      Gaia.

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      1. Ginny says:

        Ah, Gaia, a well deserved smile. Thank you for your kind words and I look forward to reading your posts about the rollercoaster we ride. Ginny ☺️

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      2. Ginny says:

        Hi Gaia, I’m just dropping by as I thought of you after writing my latest blog post. I remembered you writing about juggling and your lovely relationship with your son and all you do to give him the wonderful life you do. If you haven’t read The Bear and the Piano book with him, I highly recommend it. It’s a picture book but prompts so many discussions with children/adults of any age. My blog post is here if you’re interested. https://littlelifetheatreblog.wordpress.com/2018/08/04/the-work-life-balance-of-a-piano-playing-bear/
        Best wishes, Ginny x

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      3. thedihedral says:

        Hi Ginny, what a pleasant surprise! I’ll make sure to take a look at the book and read your post. Thank you so much for the suggestion and sharing this post with me!

        Love,

        Gaia

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  20. dhbasianetwork says: Reply

    Being single is the best thing happened in life!!
    I called it a new chapter that changed you into someone new which gives you great values freedom and control in life😘❤️😍
    #proud#freedom#wisdom

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  21. omaleeds says: Reply

    Keep reminding yourself, that you are doing a great job… I understand the difficulty of being an international student and juggling work and studies. For you, adding motherhood to that equation, it is not easy. You are brave and dedicated, I believe you can achieve anything you set your mind. Keep pushing, keep hustling and KEEP SMILING.

    All the best.

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