Disclaimer: this post will be over LGBTQ topics and I know not everyone feels in such a way as our group does. You are more than welcome to have your opinion. I’m just trying to save you a headache.
This month was a very special month for not only myself but my community. The month of June is known around the world as Pride month. Pride month being a month to show off the pride you have for yourself and your life style or someone you know, someone you love. June is the month where it’s okay to wear rainbow everyday.
I have been open and out with my sexuality since I was fifteen years old, and honestly if I wasn’t forced out by my family (LONG STORY) I probably wouldn’t be so open and proud of the way I am now.
But this post isn’t about me !!
This post is dedicated to one of my older brothers, who in the past week has brought to the world his true self. My brother has faced many challenges in his life, and this chapter is going to be one of the hardest for him. But i am going to be right here with him through it all.
My brother is a 28 year old divorced, single father who works for a very Christian organization. As well as coming from a family of southern baptists. Yikes.
He has always been a little more cheerful, a little bit louder, and a little bit stranger than any other sibling. (I have 7) we were always the closest out of everyone and there was always this bond I couldn’t explain. We understood each other without even speaking a word. I’m four years younger than him so after he graduated high school we kinda drifted apart.
But about a year ago he called me and said “I’m moving to San Francisco” and that’s when I knew. That’s when I knew his life was forever going to change, that his life would never be easy again. That’s when I knew I had to be my brothers voice.
He had many people tell him he was wrong for what he did. Leaving his daughter in Texas while he ran off. But I believe it was all necessary for him to be the best father he could be for her.
After a month of being in California he called me on the phone and came out to me. I thought I would die with this knowledge he had given me, I felt proud he was able to have faith in me to keep it.
As of a few weeks ago he publicly came out to all. His friends, co workers, family and even daughter. I’ve never known a happier version of my brother, he is going to do great this for his community.
He went and participated in his first pride festival this year and took me along for the ride.
But the defining moment through all of this for me, the moment I realized our actions to certain events even when we think others aren’t looking or they will never affect anyone else. The moment he looked at me with the biggest smile and said “If you had never allowed yourself to be placed in the gauntlet of our family, I wouldn’t be here right now”
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